Catatan: latar belakang saya membuat tulisan ini pada mulanya karena saya merasa terganggu dengan kehadiran official account Itb Jomblo, dan suatu ketika ada yang memposting foto saya disana.
Alright, I'm not that desperate that I need my friend to promote (or spread personal data in public such as age, strengths, weaknesses, how long you’ve been single, your criteria of an ideal partner and lalala) on the ‘itebe jomblo’ thingy just for the sake of getting a partner or a boyfriend or something of sorts. I know some of you think it's just for fun. You might think I'm going too far at this ‘nirfaedah’ OA for making such fucking ‘nirfaedah’ responses on my line. Or you might think that I’m overreacting for making a response for this seemingly-harmless-and-joking-account. I've wanted to talk about this since the first time I knew about that account. Now I badly want to talk about it since some of my "friends" shared a post from that account containing my photograph "promoting" me as "poetic kind of person" and "in need of a partner ‘untuk dirayu?!’" lol wtf. It makes me cringe. Whoever sent it did so without asking for my permission. For my consent. Highlight that. Look, I'm sure you guys can read, so let me tell you this: that account has told us to ask for a permission to our friends if we want to share their photographs via that account. Yet nobody has asked me for my damn permission, and when I asked the account's admin about who sent my photo they said it was "privacy". Excuse you, why am I not allowed to know who sent my picture while the account demands people to ask for one’s consent before sending one’s photograph to them? Theoretically, that means one knows who sent one's photograph to be posted on that account. My photograph was sent there without my consent, and the name of it’s sender matters less than the (never asked for) consent they have disadvantaged on. So let me get this straight: the admin wants all photographs posted on their account to be consensually sent there, which means people in the photographs may know who sent their photographs. What happened to me begs to differ. So is the former regulation still applied or should we hide our identities when sending someone's photograph to them, hence one will not be allowed to know who sent their photograph? (I don’t blame you, admin, but please consider this one :) Your rules, your responsibility to execute them :) As for my ‘jomblo’ fellow mellow friends out there, this is purely my personal opinion. You may agree or disagree with me. That account won’t get you anywhere. You're just downgrading your own selves before people's eyes. An make ‘some’ people ‘ilfeel’ about that. Y’all aren't commodities that need to be sold via aggressive promotions. You don't need people to give detailed specs about yourself in public to make someone want you. You, and not the people who love you and/or date you, define your worth. As for those who have ‘jomblo’ friend and want to ‘promote’ them, please ask for your friends' permission first. Because not everyone is comfortable if you share their personal data to something as public as an official account. Especially when you're doing that for your fun. I’m 100% positive about hearing comments saying "Yaela bs diapus kok" "Alah krg piknik lo" "Halah selera humor lo" after this. Please you don’t have to tell me what is a joke and what is not. Hell, I laugh at every receh menyeh jokes. But this one, sharing personal information of your single friend and making fun at the way they look in their photograph and bullying them for it? Go on. Make fun of them. I won't make any antibullying campaign here. I don’t have problem with that, it’s your life. It's all fun and games until someone feels uncomfortable about your joke material for their own reasons. Those who have prepared themselves to say "Anjir buang waktu bgt kurang kerjaan nulis kaya ginian", You don’t have to worry about that. It didn’t take my whole life, to write this :) Not even an hour. I hope your holidays are more meaningful than merely laughing at someone being single or waiting for the newest single fella to deck your timeline with minuscule holiday laughter. There's nothing wrong about being single, is there? (I know it’s cliché thing to say but) And there's nothing wrong with searching for a partner, too. Use that account. Go on, if that makes you happy as long as it doesn’t make someone feel uncomfortable.
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